I believe everyone has heard of the phrase “the truth is hard to swallow”. You may be giving a piece of advice or opinion out of good intention, but you could still hurt someone with those words.
Ancient Chinese proverb tells us: “Kind words are warmer than blankets; Hurtful words pierce deeper than spears.”
The proverb tells us that someone who knows how to choose their words knows how to give advice in a helpful, caring way; and is willing to grow together with whoever they gave advice to.
Hurtful words, on the other hand, are weapons. Sometimes we may say things because we care, but those words could still be hurtful. Phrases like: “You are such a failure. You won’t make it…” have no vulgarity involved but hurt much more!
So learn how to speak well. If you’re not good at it, then why not be a listener instead!