To Earn or To Sacrifice? “施”与“得”,哪一个比较比较重要?

赖彩云 Jessy Lai Chai Yun-Sacrifice

To Earn or To Sacrifice?

A question has been haunting me of late: Do I want to be known for what I have earned? Or what I sacrificed?

In other words, do I hope to be known for what I achieved, or what I gave away?

It is a big question that can govern almost every major decision in my life. I think the two choices signify the distinction between the capitalist and the soldier. The capitalist seeks to accumulate and earn as much wealth as possible. The soldier wants to give her life or health in service of a higher aim. The capitalist seeks to amass wealth and possessions to strengthen their notion of “self”, while soldiers are expected to deny their notion of “self” every single day.

I asked a few of my close friends about The capitalist seeks to amass wealth and possessions to strengthen their notion of “self”, while soldiers are expected to deny their notion of “self” every single day.
this idea, to see what they think about it. Some answered based on religious influence, or a sense of duty. Some suggested that they prefer a third way, or a fourth way.

I spent a lot of time thinking about this, and my own conclusion is this: the concepts of “gaining” and “giving” cannot be clearly separated. Want to make big gains? You need to give up a lot of your “self” (time, entertainment, financial stability) to get there. Want to give the world all you have and make meaningful sacrifices? You need to gain something (knowledge, reputation, power, money) before you can give in an impactful way.

This realisation is very powerful in guiding my daily life. On one hand, I remind myself that the only way to gain a good legacy is to give away my time, my money and my effort to those who need it. On the other hand, I understand that in order for me to continue being charitable, I need to work hard in my career, and be ambitious about what we do in Mon Space.

What’s your driving motivator, then?

I know many people whose main motivation in life is to make money. These people can be fiercely motivated, intelligent and savvy in all that they do. They are hard workers, and they are often also very wise with their finances. Of course, they might lose quality time with their family, their health or even their social lives in the process, but if that is their life decision, I fully respect it.

I also know some people who wants to be known by what they are able to give to others, or what they can give up in life. They practise a very disciplined life, stick to a strict diet, devote their time and effort into activism or social causes, or even just to their family. Their life motto is to keep giving.

Each of these life choices and motivations can lead to vastly different outcomes. Do I recommend one choice over the other? Not really. I don’t know your background, your needs and wants, your hopes and dreams; so I cannot tell you which way of life is best for you.

What I can suggest though, is that we take some time to think about our lives. When you leave this world one day, how would you want to be remembered? What kind of legacy do you want to leave for your children and grandchildren?

I have said this before, and I will say this again: life is not perfect, but you hold the power to define your own fate and future.

What is your choice and motto in life? Do feel free to share, I would love to know what you guys think.

“施”与“受”,哪一个比较比较重要?

最近有一个问题不断缠绕着我,到底我该在意我所赚到的还是我所付出的?

简言之,就是我应该关心我的成就还是所有无形的付出?

这个问题,影响了我许多人生重要的决策。

而付出与成就,就是资本家与忠君爱国的军人之间的差异这么大。

资本家在意的就是越赚越多,从来不会嫌弃钱太多,而军人却正好相反。军人爱国,无时无刻都在想着如何保卫国家,如何为这片土地奉献自己,为了国家,就算自己的生命也在所不惜。资本家通过不断扩张自己的财富与财产来强化“自我”,而军人则拥有忽略“自我”的人责任。

我曾将上述的有关资本家以及军人差异的问题与自己好友分享,我想听听他们对此事的看法。朋友的意见很多样化,有些人认为是种族的关系、有些人认为是责任感的问题,而有些人则是给了其他不同他想法。

而我自己的看法则是,“得”与“施”是分不开的。
为社会奉献有不同的方式,有些人以牺牲自我的方式来完成使命,例如娱乐、时间以及富裕。而另一种方式则是想以更大的力量以及影响力为这个社会奉献,而不断的充实自身的所有。比如财富、知识、声望或是权利。

这样的一个领悟成为我人生最重要的信念,于是我常提醒自己,要将我的时间、金钱奉献给那些有需要的人。
另一方面,想要有所奉献的念头也促使我更加努力工作并持续保持正能量态度,这也是我用以经营Mon Space集团的一大信念!

那你人生的驱动力又是什么呢?

我知道许多人的人生动力就是赚更多的钱。这些人通常都拥有强大的行动力、创新精神并精打细算。同时,他们也很勤劳,理财观念非常好。
但想要累计惊人的财富,你就必须全情投入工作,那么你就必须牺牲与家人相处的时间、健康以及社交生活。当然,每个人有选择生活方式的权利,我绝对尊重他们的选择。

我知道有些人则是想要全心全意的为这个社会奉献。这是一个很艰辛的过程,需要很强大的自律,必须投入很大的心力以及时间在各种活动以及关注需索社会课题,有些人甚至必须牺牲与家人相处的时间。而他们的人生目标就是助人。

每个人都有自己的人生选择,若你要我给你一个建议,对不起,我无法给你一个明确的答案。
因为我不认识你、不知道你的生活、不晓得你的梦想是什么,我无法告诉你什么对你来说才是最好的选择。

我只能告诉你,你需要想想,未来你离开这个世界时,你想要为后辈留下什么?

就像我经常说的,人生或许不完美,但你绝对有权利去决定你的未来与命运。

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