Traditionally, having high emotional quotient (EQ) means supressing oneself, always putting on a smile and treat people with politeness.

In Eastern culture, “patience” is lauded as a virtue, and the way of survival.

Those who are forward about their thoughts, or speak their mind freely, are often considered “inconsiderate”.

In Western culture, however, the latter is a more valuable attribute. They encourage free speech, and welcome people to express themselves.

In my view, combining the strength of both creates the perfect outcome.

Standing up for yourself in an appropriate manner when you feel uncomfortable—not repressing your feelings, clearly communicating your beliefs.

This is the art of speaking, and the essence of EQ.

The older you get, the more you realise that the person you have to be kindest to is yourself. You are the one closest to you, and only you understand yourself. So self-exploration is important.

When you understand yourself, you’ll know that repressing yourself or conforming to society is a very sad thing. You live for yourself, not anyone else.

In every life stage, seek the meaning and value of life. This sounds simple, but it takes a lifetime to learn. We can never slack from self-exploration.

People who consistent reflect on themselves may not become the most successful one percent, but it can surely make you more forgiving about yourself, and live a happier life.

Life is short, over before we know it. Our efforts and energy are limited, so focus it on things you’re passionate about. Don’t wait till the end of life to realise you haven’t lived it to the fullest.

在传统价值里,高情商意味着压抑自己、微笑迎人、温柔相待。

尤其在东方人的价值观里,“隐忍”是一种美德,也是社会的生存之道。

而那些总是坦率的做自己或是说出自我心声的人则会被认为“我行我素”。

但在西方的价值观里,后者显然是较为受欢迎的人格特质,西方人鼓励言论自由,欢迎人们做自己。

在我看来,如能取二者的优点结合在一块,就非常完美了。

在不会让人感到不适的情况下,适度的表达自己,不压抑但也不放纵,清楚的让对方了解自己之余也让自己好过。

这是说话之道,也是高情商之道。

尤其人的年纪越来越大,你会渐渐的明白,人最该要善待的不是别人而是自己,毕竟你才是自己最亲密的人,你才是那个最了解自己人。所以,探索自己就显得非常重要了。

当你搞懂自己的时候,你会明白,活得压抑或活在社会既定的价值观里是一件很可悲的事,你生来不是为别人而活,而是为了你自己。

在每个人生的面向或阶段里,找到自己活着的价值与意义,看似很简单,但其实它是一辈子的功课,人最不能怠惰的就是自我探索。

坚持自我探索的人,不见得一定会变成金字塔尖端那样成功的人,而是你懂的面对岁月、宽容自己并活得有快乐富足有意义。

人生不长,似乎一眼瞬间就来到了终点,人的心力也有限,专注的精力投注在自己有兴趣的事情上吧,不要等来到了生命尽头回头一看事,才发现你的一生如此苍白而留下遗憾。

与各位共勉之。